Red Flags – Week 1

When Words Become Weapons 

Not all danger signs are obvious—some are right in front of us, and others are hidden deep inside. In this series, we’ll uncover the warning signs of unhealthy relationships and the struggles within us that can sabotage God’s best for our lives. Don’t ignore the signs! Red Flags will help you recognize what’s holding you back and guide you toward the next steps God has for your relationships. 

  

7 People can tame all kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and fish, 8 but no one can tame the tongue. It is restless and evil, full of deadly poison. James 3:7-8  

 

9 Sometimes it praises our Lord and Father, and sometimes it curses those who have been made in the image of God. 10 And so blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right! James 3:9-10  

 

 11 Does a spring of water bubble out with both fresh water and bitter water? 12 Does a fig tree produce olives, or a grapevine produce figs? No, and you can’t draw fresh water from a salty spring. James 3:11-12 

  

The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences. Proverbs 18:21  

  

  

When Words Become Weapons  

They Deceive  

The lips of the godly speak helpful words, but the mouth of the wicked speaks perverse words. Proverbs 10:32  

 

They Stab  

Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing. Proverbs 12:18  

 

They are Full of Anger  

A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare. Proverbs 15:1  

 

They Crush the Spirit  

Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit. Proverbs 15:4  

 

They Cause Grief  

Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble. Proverbs 21:23 

 

 

Use Words to Build Hearts Not Break Them  

 

Give Life  

The words of the godly are a life-giving fountain; the words of the wicked conceal violent intentions.  

Proverbs 10:11 

 

Provide Healing  

Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit. Proverbs 15:4  

 

Encouraging   

Wise words bring many benefits, and hard work brings rewards. Proverbs 12:14  

 

Keep You from Trouble  

Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble.Proverbs 21:23  

 

How to Change Your Words  

1. Start with the heart – my cussing journey  

A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. Matthew 12:35 

 

2. Respond Slowly  

19 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. James 1:19 

 

3. Decide you don’t have to win  

 

Next steps  

  1. Repent – Confess past careless words. 
  2. Restrain – Pause before speaking (James 1:19) 
  3. Replace – Speak blessings, not burdens (Proverbs 18:21). 

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